It’s Not Just Me

Friendship is born - so true!

When you are going through something in life.. that “something” that seems to take up every spare inch inside of your heart, soul, and mind…and you finally get the courage to speak up about it or write about it – are you surprised when you find out others are going through something similar? That you aren’t the only one who feels those feelings?

What’s that about?

When you are feeling lonely and so many others come out of the woodwork saying they, too, feel lonely.

When you are feeling empty, angry, or weak – and so many others chime in that they are dealing with those emotions too.

When you felt as if you were the only one and suddenly you realize it’s impacting not just a few…but many, many others? Why does it seem that themes of emotion in life occur to multitudes all at once?

Maybe…just it so that we can help one another through it?

Maybe is it so that we can teach each other because of it?

And maybe, just maybe is it possible that God is trying to bring us together instead of allowing Satan to push us further into isolation and apart?


All I know is that so many times I have struggled with something and finally, when I’ve felt like I can barely think or breathe anymore and I come out into the open and speak of it – I’m touched and renewed to know that not only is it not “just me,” but that there are others who are ready to give me just the words and hope I need at that moment because they’ve been there. They know “there” so well.

It’s not just me.

It’s not just you.

We are a gift to each other. We just need to have the courage to speak up so we can lean and learn from one another. For that’s God’s built-in blessing to us. Each other.

About Dionna Sanchez

Dionna Sanchez is a freelance writer/blogger who is passionate about faith and family. Never professing to know it all, or have it all together - Dionna desires to write with an authentic heart to encourage you and help strengthen you in your christian walk.

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  1. Kimberly Grabinski says

    People definitely need to be more courageous about their own feelings.

    • AshleyWalkup says

      Yes! I try on a daily basis to get my daughter to verbalize her feelings but often I keep mine hidden. Great reminder!

  2. If you make your feelings known, you’ll find that others share the emotion.

  3. Amen! I always say that’s why God put us here – to help each other. If we can find the strength to open up and ask for help, someone is there!

  4. I think it’s great when people can share openly and honestly. Sometimes we feel like we are the only one. What a lie.

  5. This is absolutely beautiful. Sometimes it’s so easy to feel so alone, but then you meet someone who’s struggling with the same thing and have that lightbulb moment…. what an amazing feeling. It’s almost freeing.

    • AshleyWalkup says

      I agree, it is freeing! Free to be vulnerable, to be yourself, to be honest. 🙂 Thanks for your comment!

  6. You are so right! Everyone can relate to someone.

  7. moscatomom says

    Great post. I think the World would be a different place if we were not only more open to sharing our feelings, but also to hearing and helping others.

  8. Lynda Self says

    I like that quote. C.S. Lewis is a brilliant author.

  9. Jennifer Hay says

    What a great message, and so true!

  10. Virginia @thatbaldchick says

    C.S. Lewis is one of my favorites. Great post.

  11. Audrey Watters Holden says

    C.S. Lewis is one of the my most cherished writers. The message in this post is beautiful, and for me, right now, very apropos. 🙂

  12. It is so true. We feel better when we know that we are not the only ones struggling or fighting the same battles. It isn’t that we want others to feel the way we do, but that we want to know we aren’t alone. Lovely post.

  13. Sarah @ Must Have Mom says

    So true! There’s nothing like the sense of familiarity.

  14. Michelle says

    I have a hard time opening up to people, and find is shocking when I do, that other people have the same issues or feelings, etc. It’s a huge weight off most of the times.

    • AshleyWalkup says

      I am the same way but it’s worth it, isn’t it? Being vulnerable and sharing can alleviate so much! 🙂 Thank you for your comment.

  15. I’ve definitely had a few of those moments. It’s so nice to know you’re not alone.

  16. Nobody wants to feel alone. No matter what the problem, there is someone who can relate.

  17. I love having close friends I can turn to! I didnt have rthem when I was younger, its been a gift of being an adult.

  18. It definitely helps to have someone who’s “been there, done that” and can offer a shoulder or advice. I’ve had plenty of moments where I’ve needed someone and been able to find them.

  19. Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell says

    It’s so, so helpful when you find someone going through the same things. That quote is so true!

  20. Though God doesn’t put us through IT he has imbued us with the capacity and need to reach out. When we exercise that need our hope is to find acceptance and compassion. Too often though we find judgement and scorn that forces us inward. That’s why we all have to consider how we react to others very carefully in their time of need – especially those closest to us.

  21. we al suffer the same struggles even it they aren’t “the same”. we’re all here or each other

  22. So true. It’s always so helpful having someone else minister to us when they’ve walked the walk and gone through similar trials.

  23. owensmom says

    What a sweet sentiment. I haven’t thought of it that way… but yes, friendship is a two-sided and equal gift.

  24. Robin Gagnon says

    Such a true statement

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